Lately I have watching and I have been trying to change the words I use. Words are a vital part of how the world works (if you believe in The Secret type of stuff) and how we communicate (which is basically the same thing). I have found that I am very negative with my words, especially towards myself. They say that you are your own worst critic, and yes indeed that is very much true with myself. So I am on a transformation to make myself my own #1 fan. I need to start using more positive, uplifting, complimenting type of words when talking about myself with others and in my head. I think I heard once that “you are your own words.” I think this is very true because I believe in The Power and the power of The Secret. Whenever you think or say something about yourself you become that something, especially if you put a lot of emotion behind it. Love is the most powerful power/force there is. So when you feel love towards something you say, that something should occur or you should become that something. But the key is to keep up with the positiveness and love behind what you are thinking/saying. This is what I have been working on lately, keeping my mind full of positive and loving thoughts, because when I use to do that I was much happier and confident than I am now. Another powerful emotion is gratitude, which is one step below love. Being grateful for everything that you have been granted with in your life is very important. I am not yet at the level of feeling love for everything immediately, so I start with feeling extremely grateful/thankful for something and then work up to feeling love. I am not trying to say that you should only be grateful for what you have in order to get more, but you should be grateful/thankful for everything all the time. I cannot stress enough how important it is to be grateful and thankful for what you have. You never know what the next day, the next hour, the next minute, or next second brings. I am honestly saying this from experience, I wish I was more grateful and thankful for some of the things I took for granted in the past. It is really sad to lose something that meant the world to you, even though you did not realize it until you lost it. You should be grateful for the little and big things in life, whether its a parking space or your life. People are very materialistic and are always wanting more and more and more, but they do not realize that it is about being happy with what you already have and not about always feeling the need to have more of something. I am not sure if that is coming across as strongly as I would like, but basically one needs to not let their “need for more” override the happiness of appreciating what you already have. Also, people need to appreciate the people they have in their lives more. Sure material items and money can satisfy some aspects of your well-being. But, there is nothing like having at least one really good friend and your family around to support you, and for you to support them. There is nothing more uplifting then having people on your side. So another message is to appreciate the people around you. Do not just let them know but also SHOW them that you are happy and grateful/thankful to have them in your life. When they need you, be there for them. Hopefully if they are just as good as a friend they will be there for you when you need them. As the “golden rule” states, “Treat others the way you would like to be treated.” Treat your friends the way you would want them to treat you. Hopefully if you go above & beyond, they will go above & beyond. But do not expect too much out of people, after all we are only human. It is in some people’s nature to go above & beyond in their relationship’s and/or in life in general. It is very rare to find people like that, so when you do find one do one thing: keep them. But, you must do several things to keep them. 1) respect them and treat them with respect; 2) treasure them; 3) show them that you care; 4) do not disregard them and treat them as an equal; 5) be there for them; 6) you do not need to go exactly above & beyond, but do not do the bare minimum in the the relationship be a good friend; 7) I almost forgot but listen to them, be a good listener; 8) DO NOT take ADVANTAGE of them, actually, NEVER TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THEM; 9) I guess this list could go on….
I happen to be one of those people who goes above and beyond in my relationships. At least I try to when I really care about the person. But, when I start to notice that I am not being respected, or treated with the respect I deserve, or if they are doing the opposite of any of the above 8 things listed, that is when I start to slowly back out. If I really do care for you, I do not back out entirely. When I back out entirely that is when I usually tell you that we cannot be friends anymore. But, the point of this is that people who are like me, that go above and beyond, should learn to not expect a lot of people. Those are some really great words of advice a friend gave to me last week. People like to take advantage of people who are very nice, it is as if they find it to be a weakness. But I feel like it is a strength. So do not stop being nice, just be a little more guarded about who you choose to be very nice to and then do not expect a lot out of people.
The song I chose is Words by Skylar Grey. It is not the version with Lupe Fiasco. It is the version from “The Buried Sessions of Skylar Grey” album. It is a beautiful song even though it is pretty sad. But the reason I chose this song is because over the past few months I have been very hard on myself. I have been using very negative words, and I have had some negative words and phrases said to me that I am having trouble shaking off. I forgive but I DO NOT forget. But, I can change and make my future better. People are always saying “I’ll prove them wrong one day, just one day.” But, really you do not need to prove yourself to anyone, even though it brings great satisfaction showing how far along you are in life and that you made something of yourself and that you were not useless like they said. However, the only person you need to prove is yourself. You only need to prove to yourself that you can do whatever it is you are telling yourself you cannot do/accomplish, or that you will never do/accomplish. Learn to be content with yourself. Learn to love yourself. Learn to just be yourself, your true self. Do not be afraid to do any of those things. Once you accept yourself, everything will get much better as long as you do not feed into the negative thoughts of others, and the negative thoughts from yourself that you have silenced. Once you truly fall in love with yourself, you can truly fall in love with someone else. Just do not get too conceited about yourself, be humble yet be proud. And now we are coming to a full circle, I started out with a few thoughts I intended to say and went off on a tangent (I am still not sure if I covered everything). So I apologize for this being all over the place, I have a lot on my mind. Also, I apologize for not posting a post every week, actually I am sorry but not sorry because school is what consumed my time. I really should not be writing this right now, and with that said I should be working on this writing assignment I have. I wish I could write more often, and maybe I will be now since I got a new laptop. 🙂